The gift you didn’t receive and didn’t know you needed

When you had something you knew was precious and lost it, you can grieve that loss. If you grieve in a healthy way, you can get to a better place.

But if you never had that precious, important thing, you may not even realize what is missing. Before you can get to that better place, you have to understand this kind of loss. And then you need to process that grief and figure out how to move forward.

For example, a young man may have had a father who was emotionally or spiritually unhealthy — or just absent altogether. He grows up not receiving the gift of having a good father and has no way of knowing what he has missed. That vacancy in his heart may leave him ill-equipped to be a man himself, to be a husband, to be a good father, to be a mentor to young men in later years. It also will hinder his ability to relate to God the Father.

Many people are stuck in an unhappy place because of that second kind of loss. Paradoxically, if we get help identifying the gift we never received, we may have a new opportunity to receive it.

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About Mark Kelly

Jesus follower, Bible reader, husband/father/son/brother/uncle, rider, hiker, snapshooter
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